The biggest “secret” to success is the ability to delay short-term comfort in order to maximize long term gain. The reason it’s a “secret” is because even though it’s right in front of us, we choose not to admit it because that would mean accepting discomfort. That’s why they say the first step to overcoming a problem is admitting you have a problem. Similarly, the first step to true success is the admission that it won’t be easy, and that you’re willing to sacrifice your comfort to get there.
You have to be willing to grind it out — that is the part you CAN control.
Otherwise it’s all just a pie in the sky. Your dream begins to liken itself to the club keno booths at the end of the bar — plastic, unchanging and disingenuous no matter where you choose to go. You throw your resources at it and tell yourself you are chasing something real, but in the back of your head you know you are wrong. You know you’re skipping the fundamentals and focusing on the frills. You let your whims control you and you forge no path.
This is your dream. You like to imagine it as a fluffy ball of clouds where you have power, fame, fortune and eternal bliss. You imagine pure comfort in all of this, and so until you feel eternally blissful you feel empty. The only time you answer someone’s “How are you doing today?” with “Living the Dream!” its with pure and bitter sarcasm.
I’m starting this blog to share my thoughts and my journey. I’m buying into my dream, even though it’s not fully planned, even though I work full-time and even though I’ll have to say no to a lot of things. I am confident that these sacrifices will pay off someday, because I will be comfortable knowing that I tried.
Until that moment of reflection comes, whenever someone asks how I’m doing, I’ll reply:
Living the dream!
with a genuine voice while i embrace the struggle and remember how great it will be to have lived a life where I legitimately pursued what gave me a sense of purpose.